Pro se against moveaway

I assume the ex has filed the papers.

This would depend upon your local rules of civil procedure. If your local courthouse has a law library the librarian could help you find the rules on failure to prosecute.

However, normally, if you do not follow thru on pleadings you have filed, the other side can ask the court to throw the matter out. The caveat is that judges can be remarkably lenient with pro se litigants, especially if they feel that the pro se is at an intellectual disadvantage.

My advice – go ahead and file the papers. The worst the judge can say is no. However, you can probably ask the judge at the same time to order the ex to file the requisite papers under threat of dismissal.

Good luck.

I have been separated from

I have been separated from (for lack of a better word) my wife for a year and a half. For the last year, I have been trying to get a divorce. I have had a difficult time in doing so. I have done everything possible to end things amicably and as civil as possible. In turn, I have received nothing but pain and suffering. I supported her and my kids outside of the court.But she decided to take me to court, and had me pay for support and arrears. Since this time, I have not seen my daughters in seven months.

She continues to make allegations concerning me and my kids. Each time it was investigated, it was unfounded. My kids have stated that they want to see me but the court has given me the run around.I have gone through all of my savings in attorney fees. If anyone can help me with any advise or referrals I’d be grateful.


Think nationally, act locally…

Creating local Court Watch groups may be a good idea.

It could be available for dads who fear misrepresentation in the courtroom. Court Watchers consist of groups of men and women, dressed in business suits, who sit quietly in the back of the courtroom and take notes. The purpose is to let the court personnel and others present know that they are being watched, and that they will be held accountable for their behavior and decisions. The presence of a large and highly visible group of people is very effective. It also provides a source of support and empowerment for those who request it.

We need more information about Court Watches, especially about their effectiveness in Family Law matters.

In practice, a local organization would be needed for volunteering, assistance, and referrals…

Please post your comments. Are judges really influenced by Court Watchers?


PS: if you want to upload some forms for the above purpose, please do so to help fellow club members. If you need technical assistance, contact the moderator.

Injustice in Family Court Petition

I am a stepmom to four wonderful children. I have been helping my husband raise his children on a daily basis for the past six years. As a ‘blended family’ we were blessed in that we all got along great, had very few problems and we all developed a strong emotional bond. My stepchildren’s mother visited her children occasionally, when it was convenient for her.

She CHOSE not to pursue an ‘intimate relationship’ with them. Over the years, I helped my husband provide his children with love, support, stability and acceptance, after their mother walked out on them. I never placed demands on my stepchildren, never talked badly about their mother, nor did I DEMAND loyalty. I took things ‘one day at a time’ and did my best to be there for them. In addition, I have a bio daughter that my husband and I are raising. My daughter loves her stepdad and stepsiblings as if they are her own blood. My daughter’s bio father chose to disappear after I requested child support several years after our divorce.

He left the country, never to be heard from again. I have been through a lot in 45 years, losing my mother to cancer, my father to emphysema, and my younger brother to AIDS. However, I can honestly say that one of THE most painful times in my life, was when my ‘blended family’ was ripped apart by an angry ex-wife and an unjust legal system. There were horrible lies said about me by my husband’s ex-wife, her family and even my husband’s own mother. I have started this petition so that I can hopefully find some meaning and purpose in all of this. I wish I did not care as much as I do.

I wish I did not care about my husband’s feelings, my husband’s children, the injustice that so many father’s are going through. I wish I did not care, because then maybe I would have some peace… However, such is not the case so because I care, I want to make a difference. I want to help others who are going through what my family and I are going through. I hope you will take the time to read and sign my petition. It has helped me to see that there ARE people who have compassion and empathy for those that are suffering. Anyway, Happy Mother’s Day to all mother’s AND father’s who are raising their children with love, tolerance and peace… May God’s blessings be with you.

I have been a part of the fathers’ rights movement

I have been a part of the fathers’ rights movement for over a decade. It is the only thing I do, since I live on Social Security Disability. In the early days, we did a lot of protest. Even picketed the home of the county prosecutor, for not enforcing Missouri’s visitation denial law (R.S. Mo. 565.156 (5)). His wife turned a water home on us. I will try to find the pictures, and get them scanned in for here. From my experience, picketing achieves little to nothing, except to make people think we’re just a bunch of whining dads.

To achieve change, it has to be done in the courtroom, and with the right knowledge, that can be done. No matter how bias the judge. How do I know this? Because the National Organization for Women has complained about our methods, saying that it scares too many judges into giving fathers custody. According to them, even abusive fathers. The usually political rhetoric.

Preparing properly for a case is only part of what needs to be done. You needs people, who are not involved int he case, to be there as “Court Watchers.” These are people who sit up front in the public area, and take notes. They make sure that the judge sees them taking notes. If asked, they identify themselves as court watchers. The father does not introduce them, or even acknowledges them, but they do sit behind the father. A judge cannot even order them to leave.

These person make judges very nervous about making decisions that do not take into account all the evidence in a case. And if he does anyway, then you have five witnesses to it, that can testify against the judge, getting him/her removed from the bench, and the decision overturned.

We here at NCFC have a court watch form that is a part of our manual, along with instructions on how to use it.

If you want to pick something, when denied access to the children, picket the home of the mother, or her job. That has been effective. Especially when they work at the post office, where you can picket right at the front door.

Put up her area, with a picture of the children, and the phrase, “Have you seen my children, I wish I could. Their Dad.”