I am a stepmom to four wonderful children. I have been helping my husband raise his children on a daily basis for the past six years. As a ‘blended family’ we were blessed in that we all got along great, had very few problems and we all developed a strong emotional bond. My stepchildren’s mother visited her children occasionally, when it was convenient for her.
She CHOSE not to pursue an ‘intimate relationship’ with them. Over the years, I helped my husband provide his children with love, support, stability and acceptance, after their mother walked out on them. I never placed demands on my stepchildren, never talked badly about their mother, nor did I DEMAND loyalty. I took things ‘one day at a time’ and did my best to be there for them. In addition, I have a bio daughter that my husband and I are raising. My daughter loves her stepdad and stepsiblings as if they are her own blood. My daughter’s bio father chose to disappear after I requested child support several years after our divorce.
He left the country, never to be heard from again. I have been through a lot in 45 years, losing my mother to cancer, my father to emphysema, and my younger brother to AIDS. However, I can honestly say that one of THE most painful times in my life, was when my ‘blended family’ was ripped apart by an angry ex-wife and an unjust legal system. There were horrible lies said about me by my husband’s ex-wife, her family and even my husband’s own mother. I have started this petition so that I can hopefully find some meaning and purpose in all of this. I wish I did not care as much as I do.
I wish I did not care about my husband’s feelings, my husband’s children, the injustice that so many father’s are going through. I wish I did not care, because then maybe I would have some peace… However, such is not the case so because I care, I want to make a difference. I want to help others who are going through what my family and I are going through. I hope you will take the time to read and sign my petition. It has helped me to see that there ARE people who have compassion and empathy for those that are suffering. Anyway, Happy Mother’s Day to all mother’s AND father’s who are raising their children with love, tolerance and peace… May God’s blessings be with you.